Who doesn’t want more swinger advice from The Brainy Fox? Haha! I get asked ALL the time about what makes for a good single male profile on a swinger dating site. Well, here I talk about it. Things to avoid include anger, laziness (empty profile) and being dishonest. Things you might want to add include actual recent photos, some text that makes you seem interesting and start with a message that shows me you actually read my profile.
Join me in bed with Mr. Saturday! We have some post-sex chit chat and talk about communication, the future of the swinger lifestyle and about our Fuck Bucket!
Fuck Bucket – Our awesome box of sex party supplies that we bring with us when we attend swinger events! We talk about what we typically bring with us and what might change when we finally get to attend hotel parties again.
Hey guys! It’s been ages since I just did an episode by myself. I spent some time thinking about everything that’s happened and where we are now. It’s been a wild summer so far, and not in a totally good way. lol
I talk about my sadly rescheduled birthday gang bang and what swing parties may look like for the foreseeable future. I also talk about what interacting with other swingers online looks like now.
Hey! What a few months! In this episode I catch up with Mr. Saturday and we talk about our communication strategies for awkward situations, recount some sexy group play from our last event and give our thoughts about swinging after the pandemic.
I also announce my partnership with AltPlayground! I’m really excited to be working with AltPlayground.com. It’s a lifestyle website where you can meet other people who practice ethical non-monogamy, but it’s super inclusive and the love podcasters! Stay tuned for more on that in future episodes.
I missed you guys and I’m happy to be back to doing regular updates.
House Party Shenanigans at the Sex Bus Party! We had another awesome house party experience thanks to Jim and Lisa in Davison, MI. We so enjoy their parties and they are now featured in three of our podcast episodes! Episode 8 was our first adventure at their place and we returned in Episode 11. This visit was also amazing!
Later on we spent some time in the legendary hot tub and I ran off to see if could find a sexy single guy I had my eye on. When I found him and chatted him up, I discovered that he was not only handsome, he was smart and charming too! I grabbed Mr. Saturday and the three of us had a very hot MFM romp in the playroom. He was so easy going and fun and his lifestyle etiquette was so impeccable that I have named him Mr. Gold and plan to see him again soon.
Our discussion turns to condom etiquette and we talk for a while about safe sex and communication with lifestyle partners.
We have more fun plans for the near future and we love sharing all of these ideas and adventures with you!
#29 – House Party Shenanigans at the Sex Bus Party! House Parties
It’s pretty common knowledge that I like men and I prefer there be more men than women in a group sexual encounter. So, Mr. Saturday suggested I might like a gangbang! So, I am thinking I would like my first gangbang to be for my birthday this year. Saturday and I spend some time discussing the details. Who do we invite? Where do we have it? How many guys?
Please comment or chime in if you have experience with gangbangs or even if you just have thoughts or ideas. I would love to hear what you have to say.
#28 – Gangbang Chat with Mr. Saturday – Should I have a birthday gangbang? Thoughts While Driving
We are very excited to announce that we will be co-hosting anther Angel Entertainment hotel takeover event in Waterford, MI on March 7, 2020. We will be hosting a pre-party mingler in our suite from 6 – 9 PM before we all head down to the dance floor. We will be passing out Lifestyle Colors bracelets for our ice breaker activity.
The theme for the party is Anything But Clothes so you get super creative for this one! I’m still deciding on my outfits so that will have to be a surprise but I am pretty sure that what I’m wearing will be skimpy and sexy!
I adore Valentine’s month and this has been a great one! Mr. Saturday and I celebrated by ourselves on Valentine’s proper. We kept it low key in preparation for Valentine’s Swinging at Club Euphoria on Saturday.
It’s Valentine’s month! That’s right, the WHOLE month is sexy Valentine’s month! I like to celebrate starting on the 1st. Mr. Saturday and I were invited to co-host an Angel Entertainment Valentine’s hotel takeover party on Feb. 1st 2020 and we had a blast! We had SO much fun that our episode was too long for a single podcast. This is part 2!
This is the juicy part of the episode. Oh sure, there was some good stuff in part 1 but now you get to hear about our super hot encounter with a very sexy couple we have had our eye on for a while. They were amazing. The rest of the party was awesome too and we enjoyed ourselves thoroughly.
Our suite party was a hit. We did several costume changes and got pictures to prove it. We danced and mingled and flirted……and had a very hot play scene in the playroom with a huge audience. Later we played with just the two of us in the playroom so we could listen and watch while we enjoyed each other. It was an awesome time.
Please comment or contact us if you want more details or if you want to join us at our next event.
#25 – Valentine’s Swinger Hotel Takeover Co-hosting – Part 2 Hosting
It’s Valentine’s month! That’s right, the WHOLE month is sexy Valentine’s month! I like to celebrate starting on the 1st. Mr. Saturday and I were invited to co-host an Angel Entertainment Valentine’s hotel takeover party on Feb. 1st 2020 and we had a blast! We had SO much fun that our episode was too long for a single podcast. You will find it here in two parts.
In party 1 we talk on our way to the event. We begin by talking about what we plan to wear for the party and that leads us to discuss grooming and presentation and how everyone can be sexy. We take this a bit farther and discuss our own grooming habits. We’re both pretty fastidious about grooming our sexy bits but we don’t really expect everyone to wax and laser and religiously as we do. That took us into a discussion about grooming and anal sex which got interesting. During all of this we call on personal examples. It was a lively discussion.
We arrived at the hotel and sign off to get ready for the party. We pick up after the party in part 2 of this episode – which will be posted at the same time so you don’t have to wait.
Please comment or reach out with suggestions or questions.
#24 – Valentine’s Swinger Hotel Takeover Co-hosting – Part 1 Hosting
We had quite an adventure at their disco theme party in November of 2019. Mr. Saturday told me he loved me for the first time IN THE PLAYROOM! It was absolutely perfect so will always feel a little romantic about Club Euphoria. You can hear all the details in our Disco Party episode AND in episode or their podcast.
Polyamory – what does it mean to me….this week? Polyamory leads me to continue to reconsider things and to think deeply about my feelings and how I relate to people. I had some time to think so I recorded a reaction to some things that have come up recently. Mr. Saturday and I have an open relationship and we both are free to see other people. We are both absolutely comfortable with sex with other partners, but we are both less experienced with the emotional attachments that come with other relationships.
I feel pretty confident that I would love to see Saturday happily connecting with someone else, but I haven’t really put that to the test yet. He hasn’t met anyone that he’s become that attached to in that way. He also wonders how he will react to my becoming very attached to another partner. Our communication is terrific and consistent so I think we are in a good position to deal with anything that come up, but we still have yet to really test that.
Comment or message if you have thoughts about polyamory.
#23 – Bonus Episode: Polyamory in My Own Life – My Thoughts in the Car Personal Life Ups and Downs
In this episode Mr. Saturday and I spend time in bed where we answer some listener questions. We have gotten emails from people and we have gotten questions in person.
The discussion includes an explanation of what a shadow box is. We talk about polyamory and how we make it work. We discuss how we deal with jealousy.
We talk about how we communicate with each other during play and how that might differ from other people’s strategies. This part gets really juicy and we recap our orgy from the last podcast a little bit. We talk about how to handle people who try to invite themselves into an active play scene. It gets interesting when we hit on some possible scenarios that we hadn’t yet considered ourselves.
#22 – Listener Questions: Polyamory, Jealousy and More Personal Life Ups and Downs
We are at it again – podcasting in bed! Mr. Saturday and I take some time to reply to several listener questions.
The discussion includes an exploration of what polyamory means for us. Is our relationship with each other different that with other people we date? We also talk about playroom equipment and describe some of our recent adventures.
Our suite party at the Angel Entertainment hotel takeover was a huge success! We had so many people come by and we passed out bunched of Lifestyle Colors wrist bands! We drank and mingled….and we podcasted! I took some time to chat with a few friends that I have mentioned in earlier podcasts as well as a couple of new friends.
First, Mr. Saturday and I chat with Snarky and the Captain. They host swinger house parties during the warmer months. I had quite a solo adventure at a party they threw last June! Thanks guys! They tell us all about how they met each other and got into the lifestyle. As it turns out, Snarky was a UNICORN before she met the Captain. She had some interesting strategies for dealing with single men. The Captain was also a single in the lifestyle for a bit.
Later I sneak away with Bubble and Wolfie and Mr. and Mrs. New York. You may remember Bubbles and Wolfie from a previous house party episode, and our New Years Eve episode. Mr. and Mrs. New York are new to the area and recently had their first experience with Bubble and Wolfie. The four have since become friends and spend a lot of time together. yay!
I also get to spend some one on one time with Minka! We met at a party and she is smart and very sexy. She took the time to reach out to me to weigh in with her thoughts about single men in the lifestyle and we have a very interesting conversation about it.
What a crazy experience (in the BEST way)! Mr. Saturday and I were invited to host a pre-party hospitality suite at the Furry/Pajama theme Angel Entertainmenthotel takeover. Everyone had SO much fun. We set up our room to have snacks and special gummy bear shots with places for people hang out and mingle. We passed out wrist bands from our Lifestyle Colors project so that people could show their sharing and seeking colors with other party-goers. People loved the idea and it was a marvelous ice breaker.
At the end of an amazing evening (that involved quite a bit of drinking), Saturday and I got in the jacuzzi tub in our room and recorded our thoughts! We are clearly very tipsy and I initially thought about just discarding it, but it’s funny and we like to be authentic. We talk about the party in the room, the massive orgy in the playroom and all the dancing and debauchery that went down at the party.
I recap the party again after the drunk tub segment so you can get a clearer picture of things. It was an awesome night and I’m looking forward to hosting again!
Check back tomorrow for PART 2 of this episode where I interview some of our awesome SWINGER FRIENDS! You’ll hear from The Captain and Snarky, Bubbles and Wolfie, Mr. and Mrs. New York and Minka!
#20 – Swinger Party Fun – Hosting Our First Suite Party! (part 1) Hosting
I have more fun parties coming up! I have been invited to co-host at another Angel Entertainment hotel takeover on February 1st, 2020. This is an amazing way to kick of Valentine’s Month!
If you’re interested in coming out, you can sign up from the link here. I had SO much fun at the last event that I can’t wait to do this next one. Seriously, last weekend’s party involved old friends, new friends, dancing, sex and even an orgy!
Hope to see you there, and if you can’t make it, stay tuned for all the details in a future podcast.
#19 – Brainy Update: Valentine’s Plans and Party Appearances! News and Updates!
This year has been amazing and we decided to end it in ultimate swinger fashion! We attended a huge Angel Entertainment hotel takeover with over 600 swingers in attendance! It was crazy and we had SO much fun. You can hear all the juicy details in this episode.
We are so ready to start 2020 right so we agreed to host an event for Angel Entertainment and we plan how to make our best first impression as swing party officials.
We also talk about some other silliness including the cold we both recently had. The cold that went around the swing community was dubbed “Swinger Crud” by Ray and De from our Club Euphoria adventures and the Euphoria Chronicles. Mr Saturday and I have used the term a LOT!
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#18 – Swinging into 2020! The Final Recap! House Parties
It’s been a crazy few weeks and I have been sick. This isn’t a full episode but I wanted to say hello.
I have big plans for the weekend and you will hear all about soon. We are hosting a hospitality suite at the Angel Entertainment hotel takeover this weekend. We’re introducing my new lifestyle project Lifestyle Colors too! It’s going to be fun and I can’t wait!
Mr. Saturday and I will finish our NYE recap this weekend for next Wednesday’s update. There are so many juicy details!
#17 – Brainy Update: A Brief Hello from Brainy Personal Life Ups and Downs
2019 was a wild and crazy year for me and I’m looking forward to even more swinger adventures in 2020.
This episode begins with Mr Saturday and me recounting our New Year’s Eve party adventures as an awesome house party. We saw friends and chatted and ran into old friends. We also had an amazing five person orgy!
Later after dancing and fun, Mr Saturday and I celebrated the new year with a midnight facial!
We also talk about our plans to re-celebrate new years the next weekend at a massive hotel takeover.
Later Mr. Saturday does a solo recording and recounts an awkward lifestyle experience that he had (and that we didn’t get to on that episode).
Catch up with us next week when we give you all the details from the takeover that include another….you guessed it!…orgy!
Happy New Year!
#16 – New Year’s 2020 Swinger Shenanigans! House Parties
Swinging can be super amazing. The last episode focused on how and when things can get awkward, but things are often just awesome. These times are what make it all worth the effort.
I recount some wild times I had in my 20s. I used to go to an on-premise club in New York City that was amazing every time I visited. I also had a good friend who got up to all kinds of sexy fun with me.
You will hear my amazing story about Samantha Luvcox, an internet porn star who specialized in “extreme penetration”. My friend Sin and I fisted her TOGETHER – yes, three fists at once!
Finally, Mr. Saturday and I do a thoughts in the car session and he tells some amazing sexy stories from his past. We also talk about some of our more recent amazing swinging stories. We revisit our epic first date (you remember, Mr. Saturday, two unicorns and a hot couple from out of state) and he gives his perspective on that night.
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#15 – Epic Swinger Stories – Old and New Thoughts While Driving
The swinger lifestyle can be very exciting. It offers so many opportunities to meet and interact with fun and sexy people. However, as is true with other social interactions, sometimes things can get awkward or uncomfortable.
This episode is personal and intense for us. Mr. Saturday and Brainy get REALLY honest and personal. In previous episodes we have shared many (mostly) positive experiences that we have been fortunate enough to experience together. This episode focuses on experiences that were less positive. Some were a bit clumsy and a few were downright awful. We discuss these and explore how they might have been handled better. Honest and open communication seems to be the key, and we discuss that here.
Brainy recounts a few experiences in the lifestyle where things got awkward. Some ended really badly, but some turned out OK because they were handled well. Later, Mr. Saturday shares some of his experiences. He talks about having an intense group sex experience that was later made awkward when one of the of the participants divulged that he was cheating on his wife.
Awkward moments often involve male performance issues, and Mr. Saturday offers his advice for handling these situations. Performance issues can be caused by a myriad of factors, but the way in which they are handled makes a big difference in the way everyone ends up feeling. It’s interesting to consider why very similar events can have such different outcomes when things are handled better and communication is improved.
Establishing a plan to deal with potentially awkward situations can make swinging adventures much more fun. We offer some suggestions about how to do that here.
Please let us know if you have anything to add to our discussion by leaving a comment or a voice message.
#14 – Successfully Navigating Awkwardness in the Lifestyle Personal Life Ups and Downs
We arrived early to do our photo shoot which started with some fun couple pictures. We got a little more risque and did some implied nudes (can’t really see anything) and some lingerie / boudoir. Saturday was a little nervous until he got naked and then he turned into a total porn star! We ended the shoot with some video and a big money shot!
We regrouped after the sexy pictures and recorded a bit, then we had dinner with swinger friends. The rest of the night was amazing! We made new friends, danced, mingled and had some amazing sexy fun times! Listen to hear all about it.
#13 – Swinger Hotel Party + Sexy Photo Shoot! Swinger Hotel Takeovers
I have been working on an idea lately and it’s finally coming together. I’m developing something that will be very handy for finding and meeting others in the lifestyle. I’m going to be weird and secretive about it until it’s totally ready but I will drop the hint that I MIGHT have it with me for the Angel Entertainment party on January 4th.
If you’re planning to attend, feel free to say hello and ask me about it. I just might answer questions I get in emails or voice messages too.
We arrived early to do our photo shoot. We started with some fun couple pictures, and then moved to boudoir and more suggestive shots. AND, in epic Mr. Saturday style, we ended with full on porn and even had a money shot!
After the shoot we had dinner with swinger friends and then the party was amazing. We danced, mingled and had some amazing sexy fun!
Please join us for all the juicy details tonight at 10 PM EST.
We have been a on a run of some epic Lifestyle adventures between hotel takeovers and house parties. This weekend we decided to have a date weekend instead of a date night. We are recharging ourselves before some holiday travel plans and swinger parties to round out the year. We are also enjoying ourselves with some just us play. I do love our duality when it comes to our sex lives.
It was Saturday’s birthday and we had an awesome birthday weekend! It started on Friday night when we went for an Angel Entertainment pre-party at the hotel where we got to do an interview with Dave (Mr. Angel himself!). We spent the rest of the evening hanging out with the Angel staff and making new friends.
Saturday was the birthday! So, we headed back to the hotel early enough to get checked in right at 3 PM and have an early dinner. After dinner we got to do an interview with Tim and Mydalis. They told us all about how they met and how they got into the lifestyle. Mydalis also told us about how she became an amazing lifestyle photographer! (We did a shoot with her and the pics are HOT).
Finally we headed down to the party and had an amazing evening. We saw friends and met new sexy people. We danced and played with a sexy couple and a unicorn. The evening came to an exciting crescendo when we got to spend some fun time with a brand new super sexy couple.
It was all really amazing and I am excited to hear your thoughts. Leave a note or a voice message if you want to comment!
#12 – Holiday Swinger Hotel Takeover Birthday Weekend! Swinger Hotel Takeovers
It was Saturday’s birthday and we had an awesome birthday weekend! It started on Friday night when we went for an Angel Entertainment pre-party at the hotel where we got to do an interview with Dave (Mr. Angel himself!).
We chatted with Tim and Mydalis, a super hot lifestyle couple. Mydalis is a very talented photographer and she does pictures at the events. We were lucky enough to do a whole shoot with her.
We also had some sexy party adventures, so join us to hear all about it!
Please leave a note or a voicemail if you have questions or comments.
In my last house party episode, Mr. Saturday and I attended an epic party at a home that has a sex bus in back! Well, they had another party and we were very excited to go. It was a slightly different but equally amazing experience!
We arrived later than we usually do and the party was in full swing! There were people playing as soon as we stepped in the front door. We met a bunch of new lifestyle people and saw some old friends. The hot tub provided lots of amusement and so did their new stripper pole.
A sexy couple that we had met, and regretted not playing with, last weekend was there. That was awesome because we had an opportunity to get to know them better. We also ran into a couple that I had met when I attended a party solo. Saturday and I were the last to leave and we had an awesome time!
The first segment is me alone in my car. Saturday and I recorded before we headed out and then again the morning after the party.
#11 – More Swinger House Party Fun with Mr. Saturday! House Parties
We had so much fun at a swinger house party this weekend and I can’t wait to tell you all about it. Mr Saturday accompanied me to a party at the same house where we previously had a wild evening! You may recall the hot tub party podcast.
He and I talk before and after the party and we have some juicy stories to tell! Please comment if you like it and tell me which were your favorite parts.
You may remember an episode I did with Mr. Cadillac where we talked about couple privilege. Here I revisit some of those same ideas with Mr. Saturday.
We love to talk in the car. In this episode, Mr. Saturday and I spend a long car ride discussing swinger lifestyle politics. We discuss our transition from single to couple status and how that looks different fro each of us. Later we talk about couple privilege and single males etiquette.
We have the interesting perspective that we became a couple after being in the lifestyle for a long time as singles or with other partners. Many people that we meet transitioned from a monogamous relationship to an open relationship with their one long time partner or spouse. It’s interesting to consider things from both sides.
I continue to consider things a bit later when I have a long drive alone. I recount a few interactions that I have had with single males and couples and how some of them made me feel.
#10 – Thoughts in the Car: Couple Privilege and Single Male Swingers Thoughts While Driving
I’m posting a bonus podcast episode at 10PM EST tonight! I had some time to think about couple privilege and the perception of singles in the swinger lifestyle. I had a nice long chat with Mr. Saturday about it and also spent some time with my own thoughts.
Please weigh in with you feedback in the comments or by email. I LOVE to hear what my listeners think of the issues that I find important.
Swinger hotel takeover parties are so much fun! Mr. Saturday and I drove several hours to attend a Euphoria Party because we had heard good things and it was DISCO theme (my fav!). It was an amazing evening for so many reasons.
Everyone was so nice. We made tons of new swinger friends and saw a few familiar faces too. There was an amazing couple speed dating event that helped break the ice for us and we also did a shot exchange with everyone. I brought over 100 pudding shots.
We got to wear amazing disco regalia (platforms, bell bottoms, velvet and glitter) and we danced to disco all night! Everyone really went all out for the theme. There were light up shoes, leather chaps and tons of sparkle.
The playroom was wild! We jumped in a played with a hot couple pretty early. They were super sexy, and we have plans to see them again. We also played in the shadow box because we love and audience.
The evening came to a surprising emotional crescendo.
Life has been so much fun and I’m anxious to tell you all about it!
#9 – Disco Hotel Takeover in Ohio with Mr. Saturday! Swinger Hotel Takeovers
Being active in the lifestyle has given me several opportunities to see how other people handle themselves and their interactions with other swingers. I have a pretty clear idea about how I see things and I try to understand the viewpoints of others, but they don’t always align. I also try not to assume that my way is the best way to see or do things, but honestly, it’s hard not to feel that way. I’m planning to record a lot in the near future and will address some key issues.
treatment of singles in the lifestyle – males vs females This issue has been particularly thought provoking for me recently.
transparency in the lifestyle – I recently had a really uncomfortable interaction with a single male who turned out to be a married guy sneaking around on his wife. eeew
failure to respect other couples’ boundaries/structure – there have been a couple of events that made me notice that people can be self-centered (self meaning the couple as a unit). This may fall under couple privilege.
playing solo when part of an established couple – Mr. Saturday and I are officially together, but we are both polyamorous and date / play independently. The reception from people is notably different for him that it is for me, but it’s also different for each of us from times when we identified as “single”.
Homophobia in the lifestyle – I have had a few interactions recently that have seemed pretty insensitive, imbalanced and biased. This is a weird subject because it’s usually geared at bisexual men in the lifestyle and not at women. This can get much deeper when you begin to consider pan / poly / genderqueer folks too. It is quite possibly something that changes regionally as well.
I got shot down when I recently inquired about attending a lifestyle event as a single female. It turned out to be a very couple-centric event and that included MF couples and FF couples – but clearly not MM couples. Events that cater to one group over another seem like could be handled in a more sensitive way and I want to spend some time thinking about whether or not I have a viable solution to offer here.
I won’t be posting my weekly podcast tonight. It’s been a crazy week and I just haven’t had time to finish recording it. I have set aside time tomorrow evening to work on it though so I will have it posted by Friday night.
First of all, it’s Halloween month, which is my favorite! Last night I attended my first Halloween hotel takeover party of 2019. It was really fun. The hotel itself didn’t have an ideal layout for socializing, but the guests were all enthusiastic and friendly and we ended up having a great time. Mr Saturday and I played with 3 different couples, flirted with some others and made a bunch of new friends. You will hear all about it when I post this week’s episode on Wednesday.
I had some amazing and some awkward interactions and I have lots of thoughts about all of them. Every new event is an experience and gives me more opportunities to think about my feelings about the lifestyle and human interaction in general. This week I will talk about pushy couples, awkward cock blockers and non-traditional relationships in the lifestyle.
I am planning to post a bonus episode (hopefully Friday) with LOTS more thoughts about etiquette. I may do that alone or discuss it with guests. I haven’t decided yet.
Saturday and I went to a swinger hotel takeover with a pinup theme. It was an amazing night and we had SOOO much fun. We ran into some old friends of mine and made some new friends and …. we played with them too!
First I talk about getting ready to go, then Mr Saturday and I make a plan to communicate with each other during a hectic party with new people. Then our new friends told us about how they got into the lifestyle and finally I recap the evening and give my thoughts.
#7 – Hotel Takeover Adventure with Mr. Saturday and Two Sexy Couples! Swinger Hotel Takeovers
The podcast this Wednesday is going to be so awesome! I had so much fun at the hotel takeover this weekend and I even had TWO hot couples chat with Mr. Saturday and me! Spoiler alert ….. we played with them too!
I had an awesome date night with Mr. Saturday. We both needed some fun time because we both had long weeks so we elected to skip the lifestyle parties we had planned to attend and have a romantic date instead. We had a lovely dinner and stopped at a bar and then we came back to his place and recorded this podcast! We chat a bit about how we met and the we took a break from recording to play. After the sex we recorded our thoughts and even gave a play by play. It was really fun! I recorded more thoughts on my way home.
We have plans to attend a hotel takeover next weekend – so I’m sure that will mean more details to share!
#6 – Date Night with Mr. Saturday – with naked commentary!
I did post a podcast that was bit of bummer, but my strategy in starting my podcast was to give an honest view into my life as a swinger. That means, it’s not all champagne and orgies all the time and sometime there are emotional letdowns. This past week my, relatively new, primary relationship ended rather suddenly so I decided to record my feelings right after it happened. I then added how I was feeling a couple of days later before posting it.
I resolved to cheer myself up by spending time with friends. That included a hot date with Mr. Saturday and he agreed to be in a podcast with me. Luckily, he was flattered that I talked about him in an earlier episode and was enthusiastic about participating. We decided to skip the club and have a date with just the two of us. After dinner and drinks, we came back to his place and recorded a bit. Then, we played and recorded again after!
The result is this week’s hump-day podcast. You get to hear us giddy with anticipation and then loopy with post coital glow all in the same episode. I even enjoyed editing it. lol
Poly/swinger life isn’t all awesome sexy times and perfect friendships. My recent primary relationship ended rather suddenly and was actually a surprise to me. Here I react and then reflect on the experience and my feelings. There are two parts: one is immediately after the call and the second I recorded two days later.
NOTE: This episode isn’t as upbeat as most of my podcasts, but I thought it was important to be authentic with my audience.
#5 – Breakups are part of life….even swing life Personal Life Ups and Downs
Relationships are amazing, but they do require effort. Sometimes being totally honest and transparent is uncomfortable, but finding someone with whom you never have to be anyone but yourself is really amazing. I tend to be very open and honest with people because it feels natural to me, but I then assume that people are doing the same in return. Sadly, this is often not the case.
My venting today is a reaction to a very unexpected ending to a recent relationship I had with someone that I had clearly not known as well as I thought. We met on line on a lifestyle website and there was a considerable amount of distance between us. However, when he wrote to me it felt like we had a genuine connection. I had assumed that eventually it would run its course when he found someone closer, or I did…but until then we would have lots of fun going to lifestyle events and spending time together when we could. I also assumed, that when it did run its course, there would be a friendly discussion about how things changed and how we wanted each other to be happy…..and about how we would remain friends even without the sexual component. Well, that’s not what happened and I was blindsided.
Honestly, I think I’m most upset that I totally misjudged the character of my partner so badly that this was a shock to me. I feel like I should have seen it coming so I’m second guessing my ability to choose partners. ugh….
Anyway, the take home message is that sometimes people, even people who are open minded enough to be poly or swingers can still surprise you with their lack of open communication. I’m posting a podcast about how this took my by surprise. Please comment of leave questions if you have thoughts or questions about this….or want to tell me I’m not handling it well.
This week I had the opportunity to chat with a lifestyle friend who is fun, sexy and articulate. It was nice to chat about some lifestyle issues that I have been thinking about. We discuss single male etiquette, couple privilege and unicorn hunting. Oh, and it seems we have made a play date meet again….and THEN record an episode. Enjoy!
#4 – Lifestyle Etiquette and Experiences with Mr. Cadillac
This year I finally go to go to the ultimate swinger convention, Naughty in N’awlins! The weekend was amazing and I met, chatted with and played with so many amazing people. The weirdest part is that this trip was also a first date! I’ll tell you all about it! xox
#2 – Naughty in N’awlins 2019 – Day 1 Naughty in N'awlins 2019