Polyamory – what does it mean to me….this week? Polyamory leads me to continue to reconsider things and to think deeply about my feelings and how I relate to people. I had some time to think so I recorded a reaction to some things that have come up recently. Mr. Saturday and I have an open relationship and we both are free to see other people. We are both absolutely comfortable with sex with other partners, but we are both less experienced with the emotional attachments that come with other relationships.
I feel pretty confident that I would love to see Saturday happily connecting with someone else, but I haven’t really put that to the test yet. He hasn’t met anyone that he’s become that attached to in that way. He also wonders how he will react to my becoming very attached to another partner. Our communication is terrific and consistent so I think we are in a good position to deal with anything that come up, but we still have yet to really test that.
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In this episode Mr. Saturday and I spend time in bed where we answer some listener questions. We have gotten emails from people and we have gotten questions in person.
The discussion includes an explanation of what a shadow box is. We talk about polyamory and how we make it work. We discuss how we deal with jealousy.
We talk about how we communicate with each other during play and how that might differ from other people’s strategies. This part gets really juicy and we recap our orgy from the last podcast a little bit. We talk about how to handle people who try to invite themselves into an active play scene. It gets interesting when we hit on some possible scenarios that we hadn’t yet considered ourselves.
The swinger lifestyle can be very exciting. It offers so many opportunities to meet and interact with fun and sexy people. However, as is true with other social interactions, sometimes things can get awkward or uncomfortable.
This episode is personal and intense for us. Mr. Saturday and Brainy get REALLY honest and personal. In previous episodes we have shared many (mostly) positive experiences that we have been fortunate enough to experience together. This episode focuses on experiences that were less positive. Some were a bit clumsy and a few were downright awful. We discuss these and explore how they might have been handled better. Honest and open communication seems to be the key, and we discuss that here.
Brainy recounts a few experiences in the lifestyle where things got awkward. Some ended really badly, but some turned out OK because they were handled well. Later, Mr. Saturday shares some of his experiences. He talks about having an intense group sex experience that was later made awkward when one of the of the participants divulged that he was cheating on his wife.
Awkward moments often involve male performance issues, and Mr. Saturday offers his advice for handling these situations. Performance issues can be caused by a myriad of factors, but the way in which they are handled makes a big difference in the way everyone ends up feeling. It’s interesting to consider why very similar events can have such different outcomes when things are handled better and communication is improved.
Establishing a plan to deal with potentially awkward situations can make swinging adventures much more fun. We offer some suggestions about how to do that here.
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