Polyamory – what does it mean to me….this week? Polyamory leads me to continue to reconsider things and to think deeply about my feelings and how I relate to people. I had some time to think so I recorded a reaction to some things that have come up recently. Mr. Saturday and I have an open relationship and we both are free to see other people. We are both absolutely comfortable with sex with other partners, but we are both less experienced with the emotional attachments that come with other relationships.
I feel pretty confident that I would love to see Saturday happily connecting with someone else, but I haven’t really put that to the test yet. He hasn’t met anyone that he’s become that attached to in that way. He also wonders how he will react to my becoming very attached to another partner. Our communication is terrific and consistent so I think we are in a good position to deal with anything that come up, but we still have yet to really test that.
Comment or message if you have thoughts about polyamory.
In this episode Mr. Saturday and I spend time in bed where we answer some listener questions. We have gotten emails from people and we have gotten questions in person.
The discussion includes an explanation of what a shadow box is. We talk about polyamory and how we make it work. We discuss how we deal with jealousy.
We talk about how we communicate with each other during play and how that might differ from other people’s strategies. This part gets really juicy and we recap our orgy from the last podcast a little bit. We talk about how to handle people who try to invite themselves into an active play scene. It gets interesting when we hit on some possible scenarios that we hadn’t yet considered ourselves.
We are at it again – podcasting in bed! Mr. Saturday and I take some time to reply to several listener questions.
The discussion includes an exploration of what polyamory means for us. Is our relationship with each other different that with other people we date? We also talk about playroom equipment and describe some of our recent adventures.
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Join me and Mr. Saturday for an epic hotel takeover adventure tonight!
It was Saturday’s birthday and we had an awesome birthday weekend! It started on Friday night when we went for an Angel Entertainment pre-party at the hotel where we got to do an interview with Dave (Mr. Angel himself!).
We chatted with Tim and Mydalis, a super hot lifestyle couple. Mydalis is a very talented photographer and she does pictures at the events. We were lucky enough to do a whole shoot with her.
We also had some sexy party adventures, so join us to hear all about it!
Please leave a note or a voicemail if you have questions or comments.
Thoughts in the car with Mr. Saturday!
You may remember an episode I did with Mr. Cadillac where we talked about couple privilege. Here I revisit some of those same ideas with Mr. Saturday.
We love to talk in the car. In this episode, Mr. Saturday and I spend a long car ride discussing swinger lifestyle politics. We discuss our transition from single to couple status and how that looks different fro each of us. Later we talk about couple privilege and single males etiquette.
We have the interesting perspective that we became a couple after being in the lifestyle for a long time as singles or with other partners. Many people that we meet transitioned from a monogamous relationship to an open relationship with their one long time partner or spouse. It’s interesting to consider things from both sides.
I continue to consider things a bit later when I have a long drive alone. I recount a few interactions that I have had with single males and couples and how some of them made me feel.
Swinger hotel takeover parties are so much fun! Mr. Saturday and I drove several hours to attend a Euphoria Party because we had heard good things and it was DISCO theme (my fav!). It was an amazing evening for so many reasons.
Everyone was so nice. We made tons of new swinger friends and saw a few familiar faces too. There was an amazing couple speed dating event that helped break the ice for us and we also did a shot exchange with everyone. I brought over 100 pudding shots.
We got to wear amazing disco regalia (platforms, bell bottoms, velvet and glitter) and we danced to disco all night! Everyone really went all out for the theme. There were light up shoes, leather chaps and tons of sparkle.
The playroom was wild! We jumped in a played with a hot couple pretty early. They were super sexy, and we have plans to see them again. We also played in the shadow box because we love and audience.
The evening came to a surprising emotional crescendo.
Life has been so much fun and I’m anxious to tell you all about it!
Poly/swinger life isn’t all awesome sexy times and perfect friendships. My recent primary relationship ended rather suddenly and was actually a surprise to me. Here I react and then reflect on the experience and my feelings. There are two parts: one is immediately after the call and the second I recorded two days later.
NOTE: This episode isn’t as upbeat as most of my podcasts, but I thought it was important to be authentic with my audience.
Relationships are amazing, but they do require effort. Sometimes being totally honest and transparent is uncomfortable, but finding someone with whom you never have to be anyone but yourself is really amazing. I tend to be very open and honest with people because it feels natural to me, but I then assume that people are doing the same in return. Sadly, this is often not the case.
My venting today is a reaction to a very unexpected ending to a recent relationship I had with someone that I had clearly not known as well as I thought. We met on line on a lifestyle website and there was a considerable amount of distance between us. However, when he wrote to me it felt like we had a genuine connection. I had assumed that eventually it would run its course when he found someone closer, or I did…but until then we would have lots of fun going to lifestyle events and spending time together when we could. I also assumed, that when it did run its course, there would be a friendly discussion about how things changed and how we wanted each other to be happy…..and about how we would remain friends even without the sexual component. Well, that’s not what happened and I was blindsided.
Honestly, I think I’m most upset that I totally misjudged the character of my partner so badly that this was a shock to me. I feel like I should have seen it coming so I’m second guessing my ability to choose partners. ugh….
Anyway, the take home message is that sometimes people, even people who are open minded enough to be poly or swingers can still surprise you with their lack of open communication. I’m posting a podcast about how this took my by surprise. Please comment of leave questions if you have thoughts or questions about this….or want to tell me I’m not handling it well.
Learn a little bit about me. I talk about how I got into the swinger lifestyle and even a little bit about my former and more scandalous career. xox